A morning bike ride along our not-so-mighty but very scenic river, and this:
One of the privileges of being a stoker on the tandem is that I can look around and enjoy the scenery, or on this particular day, look down. A little girl in Arizona with Ewing’s sarcoma, a distillation of hope and courage in a small painted rock. I brought it home, and as I was meant to do, I took a picture. As I was also meant to do but didn’t, I did not post the picture (I am not on social media) not did I hide the rock again. It is on its way to a dear friend in Texas who knows a thing or two about battling cancer. She assures me the rock will continue its journey, and a little girl will too.
I chose “should” as my 2017 word: I spent the year being very careful about using that word, and I like to think it made me that much more thoughtful about how I deal with obligations to myself and to others.
For 2018, because 45 still exists, because resistance is NOT futile: Persist.
One of my favorite people told me that each person in her three-person family voted for a different candidate. Her husband voted for the Human Stain. She excused him by telling me that he did so because he was hoping for a better future for small businesses, and that while it is true the Human Stain denigrated various segments of the population, he personally was voting for the economy and not for anything else the Human Stain may represent.
Jamelle Bouie, political reporter at Slate: “There is No Such Thing as a Good Trump Voter.” His point:
Whether Trump’s election reveals an “inherent malice” in his voters is irrelevant. What is relevant are the practical outcomes of a Trump presidency. Trump campaigned on state repression of disfavored minorities . . . . If you voted for Trump, you voted for this, regardless of what you believe about the groups in question. That you have black friends or Latino colleagues, that you think yourself to be tolerant and decent, doesn’t change the fact that you voted for racist policy that may affect, change, or harm their lives. And on that score, your frustration at being labeled a racist doesn’t justify or mitigate the moral weight of your political choice . . . . To insist Trump’s backers are good people is to treat their inner lives with more weight than the actual lives on the line under a Trump administration. At best, it’s myopic and solipsistic. At worst, it’s morally grotesque.
Well, I guess I don’t have anything else to add to this. Thank you, Mr. Bouie, for your superbly intelligent and sharp articulation of how I feel about those 59 million people.
Just recently, a couple of weeks in fact, I became aware of the term “maker” as applied to crafters/artisans/diyers . . . . I like it. I am a maker of things useful and otherwise, interesting and otherwise, beautiful and otherwise. I make.
Pattern: The letters are from the Moda “Spell it with Fabric” blog hop, reduced to 3/4 size.
Fabric: The blue background fabrics are from Amy Butler’s “Daisy Chain” collection; other fabrics are stash scraps.
The Cavies (aka guinea pigs Tula and Chia) live in the basement in the summer; their house is at the bottom of the staircase. I made this floor quilt for the landing in front of the cage, partly for The College Kid’s amusement, but mostly because I have never made fabric letters. The backing fabrics are Joel Dewberry home decor weight scraps, the batting is also made up of scraps from other projects, and the binding is made from one of Mom’s nightgowns. This was a fun project, and the letters were addictive to make. I also sewed a whole set of letters at full size for one of Emily Dickinson’s pithy poems . . . . that one is a “someday” quilt.
From Anne of Green Gables (the Kevin Sullivan production of 1985):
Marilla to Matthew, while discussing Anne’s invitation to the Christmas ball: “Remember, in the beginning, I told you not to put your oar in.”
I should have remembered about the oars — and the fact that oars can propel one forward, or backward:
I thought I would have a chat with the Bride-of-the-Century about being kinder to her mother. This is the mother who went into debt to give her daughter the Wedding of the Century and then could not understand why said daughter ignored her on the wedding day. This is also the same mother who routinely got the cold shoulder for inexplicable reasons, along with the “dumb as shit” eye-roll treatment when she and BOC got into (usually pointless) arguments. Anyway, I didn’t get very far. BOC went running to Mom to complain that I was “freaking her out” by wanting to have this talk, and furthermore, this future conversation was ruining her upcoming spring vacation. Mom of Diva told me in no uncertain terms that really, I had no business trying to have a conversation with her daughter, and that she would never do this sort of thing with my daughter without clearing it with me first. BOC is TWENTY-EIGHT years old this year, gainfully employed, a wife, a mother (unfortunately to budding Diva #2, but that’s another post). Who knew I could “freak out” both mother and daughter? I genuinely thought I had been in BOC’s life long enough — watched her grow up and all that — that I could offer some minor words of wisdom. Ithought I could help.
I could not, of course.
BOC’s life is one of drama, and where there is none, she manufactures it. We are all expected to be spectators, and I should have known all that based on her wedding production. It did not occur to me that Mom was not only willing, but was in fact an absolutely essential participant. I used to rag on BOC’s Dad for his seeming unwillingness to rein her in; I now realize that it truly was more than his life was worth to even attempt to interfere in the incredibly entwined mother-daughter relationship. It is a dysfunctional relationship, but one that both need in their lives.
I regret all the times I told The College Kid that she had to babysit Diva #2, had to go have dinner, had to participate in some event or other . . . . not because those things were not important, but because I should have let her to manage her own relationships. I hope she would have done all those things anyway because she loves her godmother, but nevertheless I should have trusted her judgment, young as she was.
Now I sit in the back row, or perhaps I am actually up in the gods, but I am at least much more removed than I used to be. The view from here is just fine, and of course too far to toss an oar.
New Year Monkeys! The year 4600-something, but who’s counting?
Yes, they are wearing orange and blue instead of red ribbons, but that’s because those ribbons came off a potted rosemary plant that someone gave The College Student. And the Broncos did win Superbowl 50 yesterday . . . . Not that the pigs cared one way or the other.